Acceptance is something that we all want. Our friends seek us out because they are aware that we make them feel welcome and valued. The mechanics of friendship necessitate the maintenance of nonjudgmental attitudes toward one another. But what are we supposed to do?
But what should we do if our friend tells us that he is engaging in unethical behavior on our behalf? Should we simply accept this as well and persuade ourselves that it is none of our concern? The majority of the time, we are concerned about offending our friends. Consequently, doing nothing and simply tolerating his actions becomes the justification for doing nothing. Acceptance is something that we all want. Our friends seek us out because they are aware that we make them feel welcome and valued. The mechanics of friendship necessitate the maintenance of nonjudgmental attitudes toward one another.
Rather than advising our friend that what he is doing may be harmful, we frequently encourage him to believe that what he is doing is fine. We made it possible for him to engage in unwanted behavior. However, by doing so, we are reinforcing whatever it is that he is doing. When we allow other people to do things that are harmful to them or detrimental to themselves, we are referred to as “enablers.”
We may believe that being a friend requires extending blind and unconditional acceptance to those around us. This, however, should not be the case. When a buddy acts in dishonesty or becomes entangled in vices, we cannot be the ones to provide support to that person. If we honestly believe that we are good friends, we should not stand by and let the wrongdoings of people close to us continue. A good friend expresses concern and does not simply sit back and watch as his friend progressively destroys his own life one step at a time.
When we become aware that a buddy is engaging in inappropriate behavior, we must know that it is our responsibility to call them out on it. In order to object to our friend’s detrimental behavior in a concerned and polite manner, we must take a clear and consistent stance on the matter. Otherwise, the friendship may be jeopardized. When we complete this task, we will have the satisfaction of knowing that we have done everything we can. Moreover, by exerting a constructive effect on our friend, we might hope to bring about a realization in him by providing him with the opportunity to find what is actually beneficial to him.